Turo vs. Traditional Car Rental — Which one is best for YOU?

Hey everyone, it’s been quite some time since I’ve updated this blog!  I could offer a million excuses for the delay, or I could just acknowledge that YouTube is seemingly rendering blogging obsolete, but for those of you who still prefer to read nerdy written words about cars, chow, and so much more, here you go!

I recently took a three-day, two-night trip to the Disney parks in Florida (more on that in a future post, or perhaps not because, well, YouTube > blogging).  For this trip, I rented a car through Turo.  For those who don’t know, Turo is to car rentals what AirBnB is to lodging rentals.  In other words, when you rent a car through Turo, you are renting a car owned by an individual (or an LLC, though that’s a discussion for another post).  It has its own set of pros and cons compared to the enterprise known as traditional car rentals, and whether it hertz more or less depends on your budget, and your circumstances.  (See what I did with all those car rental puns?!)

I’m going to start by sharing some context relevant to my personal situation and my personal deal-breakers, in the form of a little anecdote.  Like some folks, and unlike others, I absolutely cannot stand the smell of cigarette smoke, including the residual smoke stench found all too often in rental cars (despite the scary “if you smoke, we’ll take all your money” warnings).  In June, as I was on my way to educate some young minds in the areas of music and hilarious puns, a bird thought it would be cool to fly in front of the grille on my 2023 Acura Integra.  The poor bird didn’t make it, as expected, but neither did the grille on my car, nor did the integrated parking sensors.  

Thankfully, the kind folks at GEICO covered the repair under the “comprehensive” line on my policy, and the kind folks at Enterprise put me in a new-ish Nissan Rogue SV while my car was being re-grilled.  I have several thoughts on said Rogue (to be shared separately), but personal opinions aside, it had a bit of a cigarette smoke smell.  While it seemed minor at first, it was enough that, after the first day of the rental, I drove my 21-year-old Acura CL with over 208K miles to my work instead of the nearly-new Rogue.  

I swapped the Rogue out for a similarly new-ish Sentra SV a couple days later, and realized that, though not as strong as in the Rogue, the odor of cigarette smoke still existed.  Fortunately, my Integra was fixed a day later, and I returned the smoky Sentra only one day after picking it up.  (As a side note, the shop did an amazing job detailing the exterior AND INTERIOR of my Integra, which essentially turned my $200 deductible into a $200 detail fee and a fully free repair.).  

Why am I sharing such a lengthy anecdote?  I share it for one reason alone, and that is to drive home the point that when you rent a car the “traditional” way, you can very easily wind up with a smoked-in car, and find yourself powerless to rectify the situation.  This is especially true if you are in a foreign town, with little ability or energy to return to an airport and swap the car out for another.  

Enter Turo.  With Turo, and other similar services, you can read reviews on specific cars, written by the actual humans who rented said cars, before booking said cars.  If a car has a smoke smell, it’s highly unlikely that said car would receive many glowing reviews with nary a mention of the smell.  Ditto for other defects.  

When I reserved my car rental on Turo for my Disney trip, I vetted several possible cars by reading the reviews, and eventually settled on a 2016 Hyundai Sonata Limited.  While I have thoughts on the Sonata (as I did on the two Nissans I drove when my car was being repaired), I’ll share those in another post.  I will say, though, that partially due to there being no smoke smell, I far more enjoyed my time in this eight-year-old car than I did in either of the two nearly-new Nissans I rented the traditional way.  

Some other considerations that I have learned over several rental experiences, both traditional and through Turo:

— Insurance in a traditional rental:  Though it’s always wise to read the fine print to be fully sure, your regular car insurance policy will most likely extend to a traditional car rental, and if you have a major credit card, your credit card agreement might actually carry secondary and/or supplemental protection.  With this in mind, you might be able to safely decline most or all of the (overpriced) supplemental insurance options they often try to up-sell people on at the counter.  Again, knowing EXACTLY what your insurance and/or your credit card agreement covers before renting the car would be smart, both from a personal injury/liability standpoint AND a property damage / collision standpoint.  

— Insurance in a Turo rental:  Conversely, most insurance carriers do NOT extend their coverage to Turo rentals, so if renting through Turo, I very strongly recommend springing for one of their three tiers of protection (varying in out-of-pocket deductibles).  I often go for the zero-deductible option despite its higher pricetag.  All Turo protection plans include state-minimum liability insurance.  While I’d personally prefer higher limits on the liability end (or for my own insurance to apply), I can work with state-minimum limits simply by not driving like an idiot.  In other words, by not texting while driving, by not driving while otherwise distracted, by pulling over if lost and figuring out my way while stopped, and by driving reasonably and prudently, I can all but eliminate any chance of myself causing an accident and being insufficient covered by a Turo protection plan.  If someone else causes an accident, the zero-deductible protection plan covers me, and they would then be responsible for any liability issues.  

— Procedures:  That said, when doing a Turo rental, it is critical that check-in steps are followed completely and punctually on the Turo app, including taking and uploading ample photos at the start and end of the rental.  This ensures that the protection plan kicks in and is fully in effect.  I also recommend taking lots of photos when doing a traditional rental, to avoid being charged for damage you didn’t cause, but unlike with Turo, the applicability of your insurance coverage doesn’t depend on photos with a traditional rental.  

— Price Comparisons:  With traditional rentals AND with Turo, it’s often necessary to click through a few screens to see the TOTAL price for a rental.  Both situations often involve several fees that don’t necessary pass the “is this or is this not bullshit” test, but that you’re stuck with regardless.  Turo rentals sometimes include a charge for the host to bring the car to a convenient destination, and sometimes a renter through Turo will be responsible for nominal parking fees in the economy lot of an airport (if that’s where the host leaves the car).  All of that said, from my own experience, I have regularly found that I can rent a nicer, better-equipped (though sometimes older) car on Turo than by going the traditional route, even when the Turo price factors in a protection plan and the aforementioned delivery charges, and the traditional rental includes neither item.  

— Essential Items:  When renting on Turo, you can check and see that the car will include specific features you need and/or desire, and you can often add extra items at checkout (car seats, pre-paid fuel, camping equipment, etc).  Sometimes, these listings aren’t fully accurate, so it can be smart to either look in detail at the vehicle pictures, and/or to look up the feature and spec lists for the year/make/model of the car you are considering.  With a traditional rental, you will more likely be left at the mercy of the kind person behind the counter, and you might not get a car with a feature you really want or need.  Apple CarPlay and Android Auto come to mind, as they allow your phone’s native GPS app to be displayed on the car’s infotainment screen, which can be enormously helpful when driving in an unfamiliar area.  (Pro-tip, make sure you bring both a USB-A and a USB-C cable that will fit your phone, to ensure that you can connect without issue.). Most new cars have these features; some still don’t.  My point is that going into a rental experience knowing for sure that your car will have the features you want and need, and that you won’t be pressured into a pricier rental car at the last minute, can alleviate a good amount of stress.  

— Renting a stick shift car:  If you, like me, prefer driving manual shift cars to automatics, you will need to go the Turo route if you want a manual rental car.  Traditional rental companies in the USA, to my knowledge, don’t rent stick shift cars, well, because so few people know how to drive them, and even fewer know how to drive them without frying a clutch.  Contrastingly, some Turo rentals have manual transmissions.  I’ve had two really good manual transmission rental experiences on Turo (a 2016 Mazda Miata and a 2013 Fiat 500).  That said, when renting a manual car from Turo, please make sure the car is ACTUALLY a manual shift car (check the interior pictures); several cars are inaccurately listed as manuals when, in fact, they are two-pedal machines that may or may not have semi-manual flappy paddles on the steering wheel.  Also, I’d strongly recommend (a) making sure the user reviews don’t make any mention of a soft clutch, and (b) notifying the owner of the car before commencing the rental if you feel that the clutch is on its last legs.  The last thing you would likely want to deal with after renting a car is being charged for the replacement of a clutch that you didn’t fry, but happened to drive most recently before the owner discovered it was fried.  

Pros of a Traditional Rental:

— Your own insurance will likely extend to the rental car.

— You don’t need to coordinate drop-off and pick-up with a host. 

— You’re likely to get a nearly-new car with current features.  

— You might save money compared to Turo if “newness” is a priority.

— The check-in procedures aren’t as involved as with a Turo rental.

Pros of a Turo Rental:

— You can pick the exact car and be reasonably sure, based on reading the reviews, that you won’t have to deal with cigarette smoke or other hidden “surprises.”

— You can rent a manual transmission car if you want to do so. 

— You can be sure the car will have the features that are most important to you (example: the 2016 Sonata I rented in Florida had ventilated seats, and I knew that going on, and my rear end was THANKFUL after every long day at the theme parks.).

— You can often rent cars that you’ll almost never see on a traditional rental lot (certain sports and luxury cars, specialty vehicles).

— You can rent Honda/Acura products — unlike most mainstream companies, Honda and Acura almost never do fleet sales, so good luck finding on a traditional rental lot.

— You can often get more features for the money, even if the car itself isn’t as new.

Cons of a Traditional Rental:  

— You might get a smoked-in car.

— You often don’t get a choice as to the specific make and model.

— You can’t rent a manual-transmission car, and you won’t have as many niche or specialty options.

— You might get something without an essential feature, and be forced to upgrade to a pricier car to get something you might think should be included in all rentals.

Cons of a Turo Rental:

— If you don’t fully “check-in” and upload lots of photos, your protection plan might not apply.  That, and the check-in process is more involved than with a traditional rental.

— Your insurance most likely won’t extend to a Turo rental, so a Turo protection plan is a must-have.  

— You might need to pay a parking fee, delivery fee, or other extra fees based on how and where you pick the car up.

— WIth costs being equal, you’ll likely get an older car (albeit possibly better-equipped).

— Building on the previous point, while user reviews would likely indicate whether any components were truly unsafe, you might be more likely to encounter shocks, brakes, tires, etc.  that don’t feel quite as new.  

Conclusion:

Do the math, compare the full prices (inclusive of all fees, and making sure insurance coverages and protection plans are as close to apples-to-apples as possible), and see how everything stacks up relative to your needs, wants, and goals of your rental experience.  If you’re not a car nerd like me, don’t want to put in as much effort and energy at pick-up and drop-off, don’t want to allocate as much time to research, and aren’t bothered by potential weird smells in a car, a traditional rental might be your ticket.  If you are more particular about what you drive and are okay putting in some extra work and research time, and/or if you want a Honda/Acura or a manual shift car, you might get better bang for your buck with Turo.  

My personal experience has been that I have, more often than not, gotten better-equipped, better-smelling, and nicer (albeit older) cars through Turo than I would’ve gotten through a traditional rental company, but that’s partially due to me likely spending more time than most people researching my various options, and I realize that some people don’t always have as much time or energy at their disposal to do this level of research.  

All of that said, I love nerding out about this stuff (and about anything and everything automotive), so please drop me a line if you’d like my thoughts on which rental route would better suit your needs and wants.  

One final thought:  Now that Turo is in New York State, it can be a compelling option for local rentals of vehicles that are only needed once in a blue moon (a pickup truck when you need to move something, a convertible when you have a hot date lined up, etc.).  

"Live and help live," not "live and let live." My latest SCOTUS thoughts.

“Not just live and let live, but live and HELP live.”  This fortune inside my fortune cookie a couple nights ago got me thinking when I opened it, and in light of several recent Supreme Court rulings, has proven itself all too relevant.  

As a cisgender straight white male, I feel woefully under qualified to comment on most any of this, and I am well aware that these rulings won’t have a huge impact on me personally.  But I’m at least going to try, and please forgive me (and call me out) if I screw up.  

Student loan debt:  I am extremely, extremely fortunate not to have any student loan debt.  Yes, I’m good at managing money, and yes, I passed on a lot of “luxuries” during my first few years teaching so I could pay down my loans.  Having no loan debt does not in any way, shape, or form, make me a better person than anyone else.  FURTHERMORE, if I hadn’t (a) gone to a state school, (b) had some very good family support, AND (c) had parents who repeatedly reminded me to pay down as much interest as possible, and do so during the grace period, I would still likely be making incessant payments, mostly toward interest, with no end in sight, like FAR too many people are doing now.  While it may be easy to say “I suffered and paid my loans, and you should too,” the reality is that income has not kept up with expenses in our society, higher education is extremely overpriced, several people have been pushed into college when another path may have better served their interests, passions, and long-term goals, and there is not nearly enough counseling for students and families telling students HOW loans amortize (how interest accrues), before they sign on the dotted line.  Quite frankly, it’s a trap.  And knocking some debt off for some people would not only help them immensely, but would help our society.   “Live and HELP live.”

LGBTQIA2S+ rights:  The LGBTQIA2S+ community is under attack, simply for trying to survive and exist as their authentic selves.  There’s no other way to put it.  Pride isn’t simply about “love is love.”  While on the surface, a ruling about a web designer being allowed not to serve gay couples might seem like an isolated thing, it’s not.  Bigotry should NEVER be justified by organized (or unorganized) religion.  It’s still bigotry.  And shame on those who use religion, bend religious teachings, and/or WRITE religious teachings that teach or justify bigotry.  I’m pretty confident that a truly benevolent, all-loving higher power (whether you name such a power as God, or something different), would not teach that part of our population does not deserve the same happiness as others, simply due to how they were created.  And IF a higher power that exists DOES in fact believe that members of the LGBTQIA2S+ community are “less than” and/or don’t deserve the same happiness as their cisgender, straight peers, then call me an atheist.  And by the way, if correct singular vs. plural semantics of grammar are more important to you than someone’s true self being honored through use of their chosen pronouns, you need to get over yourself.  “Live and HELP live.”

Affirmative action:  When I was in high school, I will embarrassedly admit that I was not in favor of affirmative action.  I did not consider myself to be a racist, and I wondered why folks like me should be “punished” for things I didn’t actively do.  Obviously, I’ve learned a lot since then.  Representation matters.  Diversity matters.  And in order to truly make progress against all of the systemic racism embedded in our society, being non-racist isn’t enough.  The path to college for some has been, and continues to be, significantly harder than for others, through no outright choice of the “some.”  Systemically, some people have a better shot at success than others, and there needs to be an equalizer.  Is affirmative action alone the golden ticket?  Nope.  But it’s part of the equation.  And striking it down is a grave retroactive step.  I still have a LOT to learn on this topic, both on the macro and micro scales, but turning the clock back isn’t the answer.  “Live and HELP live.”

If this country is truly the land of the free, and the home of the brave, and if our goal as a country is always to strive for a more perfect union, we are stomping on the graves of the founding fathers as these legislators-disguised-as-jurists continue to turn our clock of progress backward.  And while quite frankly I don’t give a rats’ ass about what some white men said over two hundred years ago, I do think it’s important that we continue to strive for the more perfect union to which they aspired at that time.  “Liberty and justice for all” means ALL, and it NEEDS to TRULY mean ALL for this country to have ANY legitimacy whatsoever.  And sometimes achieving equality, liberty, and justice for all means AMPLIFYING voices that have historically been, and still are, underrepresented and under-amplified.  “Live and HELP live.”

If you are adversely affected by any of these rulings, I am so, so sorry, and I want to help you however I can.  And whether or not you may be affected, if you want to put your heads together with me to come up with some meaningful ways to counteract this bullshit, drop me a line.  I’m all ears.  Let’s figure out how we got here in the first place, let’s figure out which of our structural institutions are responsible for conservative voices being unfairly amplified in this country (the Senate filibuster, the 2-senator-per-state rule, the lifetime appointments of SCOTUS justices, and some other relics of the late 1700s which just aren’t suitable for the current size and composition of our country, come to mind), and let’s figure out what we can do to make things better.  This country has a lot of potential, and while we might not know exactly what that looks like yet because we’re so far from it, I know what this country is NOT — and it is NOT supposed to be a minority-rule theocratic oligarchy.  And damn it if I’m not going to do everything in my power to counteract the retrogression of this country, and the damning effects such retrogression has on pretty much everyone that isn’t like me (straight, white, male, cisgender, reasonably well-off financially).  

“Live and help live.”  Why is this such a fucking hard concept to get behind?

Car Review -- 2022 Nissan Altima 2.5 SV

 Hey everyone, I know it's been some time since I've updated this thing.  Remember when I said I'd update it every week?  Well.....since my last post, I've.....

-- Flown to Florida for a few days.

-- Spent a few days in NYC.

-- Chaperoned students at TWO all-county festivals, one of which transitioned directly into a midnight-oil-burning jaunt to Syracuse for the annual NYSBDA symposium.

-- Conducted my first pops concert at the school since 2020.

-- Music-directed and conducted the pit in Germantown's production of Matilda (the kids did AMAZINGLY well!).

-- Etc. etc. etc.  

Needless to say, I've been busy.  It's no excuse, but here we are, and I'm back with the first of what will be a few reviews of various cars I've driven over the last few months.  We're going to start with the 2022 Nissan Altima 2.5 SV sedan I rented in early February for an action-packed trip to the Syracuse Auto Show, followed by a kickass band director clinic at Frog Alley Brewing in Schenectady, followed by a trip to NYC to see Billy Joel perform at Madison Square Garden, and followed by the trip back home with a stop in Germantown on the way for a rehearsal.  I put about 600 miles on that Altima over the course of two days, and I have some thoughts, so buckle up!

I was fairly underwhelmed when I got into the car for the first time, but this could have been because the fine folks at the Albany Airport Hertz kiosk didn't leave much space between the Altima and its neighboring car.  Consequently, entering the Altima was an exercise in contortion, and it may have affected my immediate thoughts.  

For context, the 2.5 SV version of the Altima is one step above the base 2.5 S version, and it's priced just under $26K before delivery.  The base Honda Accord LX goes for just OVER $26K, and the base Volkswagen Passat SE goes for just over $27K, for comparison's sake.  While the Altima is the least expensive of those three vehicles, it was missing quite a bit of content that is included in the base trims of the aforementioned rivals.  Specifically, I would've really liked to have automatic climate control, heated front seats, lane-keeping assist, and adaptive cruise control, most of which are included in the Passat and Accord at that price point (the base Accord does not include heated seats).  That said, the Altima did include a few goodies that would've cost extra on the other two cars, such as parking sensors (extra on both) and blind-spot monitoring (extra on the Accord).  Still, given that I'd be driving 600 miles, mostly on the open highway, adaptive cruise control and lane assist would've been REALLY nice, and given New York's winter temperatures, heated seats and automatic climate control would've been appreciated.  

Feature omissions aside, I noticed a few things pretty quickly, and some other things more gradually, as follows:

-- The car had the base powertrain -- a 2.5 liter naturally aspirated four banger with a CVT (continuously variable transmission).  While it wasn't a screamer by any stretch, and while my 2003 Acura CL could SMOKE it in a drag race, not once did it feel underpowered, and not once did the CVT bother me.  The latter point in particular is unusual, as CVTs tend to peg the engine near the redline under hard throttle, especially if the car is underpowered.  This one was very smooth, and did a decent job mimicking a normal "stepped" automatic when I wasn't burying my right foot.  It was not offensive, it got the job done, and if I was buying an Altima, I most likely would not splurge for the optional turbocharged engine.  

-- Nissan hasn't quite figured out how to nail the ride/handling balance the way Honda has with their latest Accord.  The Altima is less refined in its highway ride, and more easily disturbed in that setting, without returning any kind of appreciable handling benefit.  Actually, the Accord out-handles it as well and even invites spirited driving, which is something the Altima just did not do.  

-- All of that said, the Altima is pretty quiet on the open road, and maybe even more so than most Honda products.  In that sense, it was quite relaxing.  

-- Ergonomics and driver comfort are a couple other things Nissan got VERY right with this one.  In particular, the door armrests and center armrest were all very well-padded, and set at an ideal height for meaningful elbow rest.  The controls generally fell to hand quite readily, and a particular shout-out goes to the in-dash information screen, which displayed just about every piece of pertinent information in a clear fashion without looking cluttered or being hard to read.  That, and it was easily adjustable via the steering wheel controls.  The center infotainment screen also worked quite well, and I got the hang of it pretty quickly.  

-- Building on the driver comfort accolades, Nissan's Zero Gravity seats were outstanding.  The premise is that the seats are supposed to make you feel like gravity isn't a thing, and while that's an unattainable objective overall, they came damn close.  Not once did my ass get sore after all of that time on the road, even after repositioning following the expected Roy-Rogers-cheeseburger farts.  My only beef with the seats was the inadequate lower back support, and the lack of a power lumbar adjustment through which I could remedy it.  Overall, though, the front seats were excellent.  

-- A couple other beefs:  Some of the switchgear, while perfectly functional, felt cheap (map lights, window switches, wiper and headlight stalks).  The cupholders were small and couldn't easily accommodate my good-sized water bottle.  The trunk wasn't huge, and neither was the resulting pass-through when the back seats were dropped.  The backup camera seemed to pick up dirt more easily than most I've experienced (why more automakers haven't adopted Volkswagen's brilliant hide-away camera is beyond me!).  The passenger's power window didn't have auto up-down.  The parking brake was a geriatric foot-pedal design.  

-- A couple other accolades:  Fuel economy was pretty darn good.  I averaged somewhere around the mid 30s for the trip (including nearly 40 mpg for the leg out to Syracuse), which wasn't bad given the weight of my right foot and the abundance of stop-and-go traffic in NYC.  Also, the base audio system wasn't terrible.  It clearly wasn't a premium system (Nissan offers a Bose setup in the higher trim levels.), but it did the job, and it wasn't offensive, unlike some other base audio systems (Volkswagen Jetta S, I'm looking at you.).  

Overall, the car grew on me throughout that weekend.  Would I buy it over an Accord?  Probably not.  Would heated seats, auto climate, radar cruise control, and lane assist have helped my trip be even more relaxing?  Undoubtedly.  Should those features be included (or at least available as options without jumping all the way up to nearly the top of the trim latdder)?  Most definitely.  (Some of the features can be added as options on the SV trim.).  But ultimately, will those who buy it end up with a solid car that'll do its intended job quite well?  Absolutely.  

Happy Sunday, everyone!

Valentine's Day Thoughts 2022

 I often find myself in a reflective mood on Valentine's Day, and this year is no different.  The thought that popped into my head this morning while driving to work can be traced back to my flute techniques professor at Crane . . . the inimitable Mr. Ken Andrews.  More specifically, I was brought back to Ken's definition of the word support -- in his words, support could be defined simply as "pressure resistance."  While Ken's use of this definition was doubtlessly connected to flute playing, given that flute is one of few wind instruments with no inherent resistance, I find the concept of support to be a relevant one to today's topic in several ways.  Let's dig in, shall we?  We shall!

As humans, we often like to pride ourselves on our ability to be independent, strong, self-sufficient, etc.  We don't like asking for help.  We don't want to be a burden.  We don't want to seem needy.  I think this applies to most if not all of us.  All of this, despite the fact that so much would be easier if we were more willing to accept SUPPORT from one another.  Life carries a LOT of pressure.  We are only equipped to resist so much of it.  We are designed to have help from our friends (ahh, that quote takes me back to the Wonder Years).  Let's keep an eye out for each other, offer help when we can, and just check in and offer our support when we can, so we can help our friends better handle and better resist the pressures that are weighing on them.  Even, and especially, if they won't ask for the support on their own.  

Similarly, and perhaps more importantly, let's try and allow ourselves to accept help from our friends, even at the expense of some of our pride.  I think it's quite a common thought for us to be terrified of burdening others, or coming across as such, while in reality if we were the "others," we would PREFER to know how to help our friends in need.  So much of what is preventing us from deepening our connections with each other, from helping each other out, from being vulnerable enough to ask for help when needed, etc. etc. etc., is all in our heads.  Our own human nature prevents us from supporting each other and accepting support from each other.  My challenge to all of us: Take your friends at face value when they say they're here for you.  They really are.  I really believe that.  

Additionally, our SOCIETY could do a better job of supporting all of the above, and helping us to resist our pressures as proud humans to "do it on our own."  I am BEYOND grateful to have a handful of extremely close friends of different genders, some of whom have romantic partners and some of whom do not.  Some folks are not as lucky as me in this sense, and I wish they were.  My hope is that the concept of people feeling comfortable enough to be their authentic selves, and feeling comfortable enough to be vulnerable with and fully supportive of each other, gets normalized far more than it has been.  

How is this all relevant to Valentine's Day?  Well, let's take a look at what love is at its core.  Here's my take on it.  When you love someone (romantically, platonically, or in a familial way), it might look like this:

1.  Taking care of yourself as best you can, so you are the best person you can be to those around you.  This is important.  So often we treat those we love the most with the least respect.  If anything, they deserve the MOST respect.  And that means taking care of ourselves, and asking for support when needed, so we can be as kind, caring, and yes, loving, as possible when around them.  

2.  Getting help when needed.  If something is affecting your ability to be your best self around those closest to you, or if something from the past is (consciously or subconsciously) sabotaging your current friendships, relationships, etc......why not get some help to unpack it and work through it?  Seems like it can only help!

3.  Allowing your friends, partners, etc., to help you.  They want to.  Trust me on this.  You're worth it to them, even if your mind may tell you otherwise.  

Take care of yourselves, everybody.  Take care of each other.  Let others in your life take care of you.  Be each other's SUPPORT systems.  Our world is a minefield.  We're stronger together, even if our pride tries to tell us otherwise.  

Happy Valentine's Day.  

The Importance of Celebrating the Little Good Things

 Disclaimer:  This post is not (at the core, anyway) about cars or chow.  However, it is about "so much more," or at least I think it is.  I hope you find it helpful.  (Please read all the way through if you can.)

I've been thinking a lot lately about the past two years, and specifically the effects they have had on us as people.  Collectively and individually, we have all been through some level of trauma, and our bodies and minds are only now starting to come to grips with it.  Our individual and collective patience is exhausted, which causes us to enter "fight or flight" mode far more readily than we may have in the past.  We may also find ourselves thinking in the binary far more easily and far more often, rather than looking at the totality of (insert thing here).  

When we hear of something and perceive it as a threat at any level, we may find ourselves inclined to completely panic and lose all hope.  And in many situations, that panic and loss of hope may well be 100% justified.  I have long believed, and do more so now than ever before, that if we don't stay informed and actively seek to better our world, it will not get better and it will actually regress.  Furthermore, if we brush things off with the attitude of "it can't be THAT bad" or "I can't do anything about it anyway," the issue at hand won't stand a chance of being resolved or fixed.  If enough of us have this attitude, how can we trust that enough people out there WILL do the necessary work to fix the issue at hand?  

For me, personally, it is downright discouraging to see some of our political leaders actively making it harder to vote, and other political leaders seemingly championing bipartisanism (in the form of the frequently-abused Senate filibuster) more strongly than securing everyone's right to vote.  This, combined with gerrymandering efforts, as well as the fact that some elected officials represent disproportionately small numbers of people, causes me to lose nearly all hope that our country's proud tradition of majority rule will survive the next couple years, let alone the next decade.  I am more unnerved about our country, politically, than I have been in my entire lifetime.  I can't help but think that I'm not the only one, and what fleetingly gives me hope is that enough other folks out there are as pissed off as I am.  With enough folks sick of the status quo, perhaps things will change for the better, and the particular institutions that need updating to ensure democracy's chances in the 21st century will actually be updated.  

(Just to be clear, if my preferred candidate or party loses an election, I will absolutely accept the results.  I may not be happy, but I will accept the results.  This is, of course, assuming that all voters in the geographic area relevant to that election had a fair and easy opportunity to cast their ballots, without ANY voter suppression.  It is our responsibility as citizens to ensure that this is the case, and that NONE of our elected officials suppress anyone's votes out of fear of losing future elections.)

Another area that has been incredibly discouraging as of late has been so many elected officials', and even the CDC's, apparent act of 'throwing in the towel' with respect to containing COVID and keeping our most vulnerable folks safe.  A disease prevention agency should NOT be dumbing down its guidance with the goal of preserving the economy, unless doing so PREVENTS A DISEASE.  People should not be getting away with failing to wear their masks in indoor settings, and our employers, elected officials, law enforcement officers, etc. should not be turning a blind eye to those who flout COVID safety measures.   As someone whose profession demands in-person work (and for good reason), it enrages me when folks don't do everything within their power to bring this pandemic to an end as quickly as possible.  Those whose jobs CAN be done remotely as successfully as in-person should be allowed to telecommute, no questions asked, for their safety and that of those around them.  Those whose jobs MUST be done in-person must be masked, and it must be enforced.  And those who have to work in-person during this pandemic DESERVE hazard pay.  It's long overdue, especially for our health care workforce and critical infrastructure workers.  

Accepting that everyone is inevitably going to get COVID is NOT the right answer, and it incenses me that so many, including the institutions and organizations that are supposed to be guiding us, are just throwing the towel in.  

It's not that hard to do the right thing, folks.  It's not that hard to put your selfishness aside and not be a dick.  

All of that said, it is CRUCIAL to remember that no two people have the exact same lived experience, and in some cases, someone who seems like a monster for (insert reason here) might just be in need of some kind education and some love.  We are complex creatures, and we need to remember that when dealing with one another.  Yes, we need to stay on top of our game and call those out who are bringing our world down in any way, but we need to look at the big picture and let its innate complexity guide our interactions and our takeaways of any and all situations.  

At this point, if you're still reading, I apologize for so much angry word-vomit.  Or maybe I don't.  I thought about deleting it and starting again, but context is important.  I want to establish how easy it is to feel helpless and hopeless about so many things in our current world, and help those who feel that way to know that they're not alone.  But I also want to share a little bit about how one can balance their minds out and still appreciate the good that's out there, because despite what we may think, there still IS a lot of good out there.  CELEBRATING the good things is crucial, not only as a way to stay sane these days, but because good things are intrinsically worthy of celebration.  Here are some good things that I've been privy to as of late, that I have celebrated internally.  Maybe you've been privy to some similar good things in your orbits:

-- A student NAILS something they've been struggling with for a while.  In my world as a music teacher, this has been a brass player getting a clean-sounding high note, grasping a difficult rhythmic concept, falling in love with jazz improvisation, finally cracking the code to translating written rhythms and pitches into actual sound on an instrument, etc.  The list goes on and on, and quite frankly, it's so inspiring to witness these successes as they happen.  

-- The sunrise pokes through the clouds on the drive to work, and just looks stunning.  This happens quite a bit, and it's spectacular to witness.  

-- A friend or family member has something amazing happen to them.  It could be the birth of a child, it could be scoring a role in a production or a promotion at work, it could be patching up a relationship (platonic, romantic, professional, or familial), it could be gathering the courage to leave a toxic situation, it could be anything that betters their life and/or their health.  These little "wins" are beautiful and should be celebrated.  

Success looks different for everyone.  What might seem like a huge deal to someone might not to someone else, and vice versa.  It doesn't matter.  What matters is that we cherish and celebrate these little things as much as we can, because doing so lifts us up and lifts those around us up, and these little pick-me-ups are as crucial as ever now.  

What are YOU celebrating these days?  Leave it in the comments!

Super Easy Crockpot Pulled Pork Sandwiches

 Happy 2nd day of 2022!

In keeping with the "chow" portion of this blog, today's post is dedicated to an easy yet delectable recipe that I made yesterday.  My friends, I present to you . . . super easy crockpot pulled pork sandwiches!

Step one:  Put a frozen or thawed (in the refrigerator of course, for safety) pork butt or shoulder in the crockpot.  Rub it all over with some Dinosaur BBQ Cajun Foreplay spice rub (or similar), and sprinkle a little bit of black pepper on it.  Pour a couple cans of root beer over the pork.  Turn the crockpot on low and let it cook for approximately eight hours.  

Step two:  Enjoy your day and, if you're home, bask in the ambience of the pork as it cooks while watching your favorite game show.  

Step three:  When the pork is finished cooking, lift it out of the crockpot and into a large bowl.  Separate the fat and return it to the crockpot (or dispose of it, or save it for "science").  Shred the pork with two forks until it looks like pulled pork.  Add BBQ sauce and mix it together.  I typically use a combination of various Dinosaur BBQ sauces (equal-ish parts of Sensuous Slathering, Wango Tango, and Roasted Garlic Honey).  

Step four:  Lightly toast two halves (yay, I can do math) of a brioche bun (or whichever type of bread you prefer).  Use "bagel mode" on your toaster to ensure that the sliced side of the bun is toasted more than the outside.  Plop some Hellmann's real mayo onto the bun and spread it nice and thin (and for the love of everything holy, don't use Miracle Whip).  Add a heaping helping of pulled pork, and top it with some pickle slices and/or some sliced Colby Jack cheese.  (If you want to melt the cheese, add the pork to a plate, top it with the cheese, microwave it for 30 seconds, and THEN add it to the bread.)  Top it with the other half of the bun, slice it down the middle, and ENJOY!

Happy Sunday, and GO GIANTS!!!  

Happy New Year

 Happy 2022, everyone!  

It has been quite some time since I've updated this blog.  Since my last post, I have certainly driven some incredible cars, eaten some delectable chow, and done so much more, but I have not been diligent in translating all (or even some) of that to words.  Cue resolution #1:  I will update this blog at least twice a week.  

In prior years, I have come up with laundry lists of resolutions, reflections on the prior year, thoughts on how our world can be made into a better place, etc.  Doing so seems a bit futile this year, given that so many of us are consciously and/or subconsciously recovering from the collective trauma that has engulfed us from March 2020 through and including the present time.  As such, I will share but two ideas that I feel would help all of us, individually and collectively:

1.  We need to open to the possibility of being in the wrong, and if we are in the wrong, we need to forgive ourselves and then learn from it.  It's human nature to want to be "right," to want to win arguments, to want to be a "better" person than someone else.  That said, none of us are perfect, and we are all going to be "wrong" sometimes.  How best to handle the inevitable screw-ups that lie in our futures?   We need to be kind to ourselves and stop expecting absolute perfection.  And then we need to do the work to open our minds and learn.  Only then can we grow as people and, by extension, as a society.  

2.  We need to take better care of ourselves.  This one is complex and, in some ways, easier said than done.  This can also be viewed many different ways, but the angle I'd like to focus on today is that of asking for help.  It's human nature to give off the aura that we "have it all together," whether or not we actually do.  This is especially true when our past experiences of asking for help have been met with indifference or refusal.  That said, if we find ourselves stuck in patterns and/or reactions that paralyze us from growth and/or damage our relationships with others (be these relationships familial, platonic, romantic, or anything in between), we need to seek out the help that we need.  The help that we need might look different from person to person, but asking for it is crucial, and so is accepting the reality that there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a therapist.  Only once we take that step of seeking help can we begin to break toxic cycles (particularly those that have lasted for generations), and only then can we even come close to being the best people we can be, not only for ourselves, but for those near and dear to us.  

If we all can take even one baby step each toward (a) opening our minds to new learning and growth, (b) seeking out help when we need it, and (c) encouraging someone near and dear to us to be kind to themselves, I think that not only would we as individuals reap some pretty damn great rewards, humanity as a whole would benefit substantially as well, and our world might look a little less bleak than it does at the present time.  

Let's do what we can to make this a great year!  

Be well,

DG